With Beltane fast approaching there is a huge amount of fertility magick in the air. Romance and sexual energy are all around us. We are at the middle point of Spring and Summer. The opposite of Samhain on the Wheel of the Year, which means that the veil is thinner. This also means that whatever workings you decide to do will be that much more potent!
But lets get down to the nitty gritty! The stuff "society" deems inappropriate and unacceptable to to talk about...sex.
Beltane is all about that sexual energy. It's a point where we give thanks for the animals getting busy and bringing new life into the world. Thanks to the bees for pollinating the flowers, and for mother nature taking in the seeds of the earth to grow in her womb and are now blossoming.
The cycle of life has begun again and now is the time to let your hair down and let loose.
For many of us, we have a partner that we can get frisky with, take advantage of in the most sensual ways, and just enjoy each other's sexuality. But what happens if you are alone on this wonderful Sabbat? Whether on your own accord, or because your loved ones are away. Does this mean that you don't get to experience all of the sexual energy that Beltane has to offer? HELL NO! This just means that it's time for some "self love" and self discovery!
Years ago I started on a journey of self discovery. Not only was this great for me, but it also helped strengthen every relationship I have been in ever since. Sexual or otherwise.
I started by asking myself basic fundamental questions. Who am I? What kind of person, friend, wife do I want to be? What do I want out of life? What are some things that I can do that will bring me joy and fulfillment?
Before I had any answers to any of these questions, I first had to know myself as a person. I wanted to look at myself in the mirror and be able to see exactly what my husband saw when he looks at me. Because he knows me better than anyone else in the world. And he fell in love with me. So, why is it I didn't see what he saw?
Most people don't.
Most people are so overly critical of themselves that they fail to see how truly amazing they are!
I didn't want to be that person anymore. I wanted to look at myself and love everything I saw. Love everything about me. What makes me, me. To find the beauty in all the so called "imperfections". I'm still in this process, as I believe everyone is; but this is the story of how I came to know myself on a different level...sexually.
To know precisely what makes a person tick, what they like or don't like, and the things that set me over the edge or drive them crazy is a process that everyone goes through in a relationship. But what we don't ever stop and think about is the relationship we have with ourselves. We ask ourselves these things of our partners, but when was the last time you asked them about yourselves? For the majority of us the answer is never. Hopefully this Beltane you will start the process to change that!
These are just a couple things that I started doing on my journey of "Self Love".
First off...What make you feel sexy? If you're not "feeling it", then it's pretty much pointless and you will never be able to get to the next step.
I personally like to do my makeup. Not my typical foundation and mascara, then I'm out the door; no, I mean full blown makeup to where I not only look like a seductress, but people will be calling me for porn. The same goes for my hair. If you are wearing something frumpy, then you are gonna feel frumpy. Get into your closet and pick out an outfit that makes you feel sexy. That little black dress, heels you never wear out, the push up bra that makes it look like your boobs are gonna suffocate you. Whatever you choose, is what is right for you and for the moment. I don't do this for anyone else but myself because it makes me feel good about me.
Next, I like to maybe light some candles, incense, or maybe spray some perfume that I find pleasing and that adds to how I am feeling. You want to make your space as comfortable as possible, and as inviting as possible as well. As you go through this, all of your senses will be heightened, so be sure not to do anything that would make you uncomfortable in any way. This is about you, and what makes you feel good.
I also like to put on some music. Something sensual that I can move my body to. No, it doesn't have to be Marvin Gaye. It could simply be instrumental music. Whatever you like that will bring out your personality of yourself sexually is what is best.
Next, if you have a mirror, now is the perfect time to look at yourself. Watch yourself move. Notice the areas on your body that you tend to keep your hands touching more. These generally tend to be your trigger spots. I tend to keep my hands more towards my neck, collar bone, and breasts. Some people its their stomachs, butt or thighs, while others is just all over! Don't be afraid to explore your body. See what does and doesn't feel good to you.
*Keep in mind this exercise can be done with or without your clothing on, depending on how comfortable you are.
Also, I am writing this from my perspective, but I do hope that the men out there try this as well.
The reason I say to do this in front of the mirror is so that you can look at yourself and realize that You Are Beautiful! That You Are Sexy! It is all about how you perceive yourself, and this is the starting point of learning to love who YOU are!
Once you've slowly begun discovering your sweet spots, keep them in the back of your mind, always. When you discover the ways and things that bring you pleasure you will be more likely and willing to love yourself.
Continue on this beautiful journey of discovering your body. How you react to touches in certain places. Whether or not you enjoy things soft and sensual, or if you like it a little rougher and more aggressive. Sometimes it just depends on your mood for the day. ;-)
And just a quick side note, while doing this exercise if you are comfortable enough with your self discovery and can get yourself to that Big "O", you will be releasing a crap ton of energy. Just make sure that you are hydrated! I tend to keep a bit of chocolate nearby too!
So...whether you are diddling the DJ, taming the snake, or have B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend) over for the afternoon, you are on your way to self discovery! Now go out there and try new things! Do what feels good! Set your mind to it, and let your energy out into the universe. You will be surprised at what it will bring back to you.
I know that there is so much more to expand on this, and that will come with time on your part. (I myself am trying to keep it PG-13 for this post. lol) Go out there and get to know yourself on a personal level!
And remember, Don't be a dick!
*This applies towards yourself as well.
Love and Light to you all. )O(
~Luminessa
Thank you for sharing ❤
ReplyDelete